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Become the one you need (and putting up self-respecting boundries)


To become our own best friend, I've found, is one of the most healing and strengthening skills we can teach ourselves as we walk through our life in this messy world filled with love, pressure, expectations, trauma, learning to put up boundaries, growth, crippling loneliness, chosen solitude, joy for the little things and building new/starting over. 

To listen to our own needs (and as we do- listen to and put up our boundaries and how we need them to be for the time being) is what we have to do in order to reach inner happiness and peace. What we need, and what we want and choose to keep out for our own well-being goes hand in hand. 

Sometimes we might have to take a break from certain company, from certain activities, maybe change our job or job-pattern, maybe step away from friends who distract our process or demand to much in comparison to what we actually can give. Maybe we need to leave behind those who never valued us at all. Follow your heart, and path to self-respect. Become what you need and build your environment accordingly. 

It can be hard and painful to let go (and it is hard to be let go of too). But we all have a reason for letting go when we do, and as friends/or people who truly care I find it important to try to respect that choice. We can not know all they are going through- and it is important to understand that they are doing what is best for them- trust them and honor their journey. And as you do- build on yours (do not build your home within the wings of someone else- always build your home within and around yourself). Those who were meant to be in your life will return at their own accord when they are ready, remember that). 

Honor everyone's process of growth and truth to the self- but always demand respect from the people you keep around and who chose to stay. If not- simply walk away. Keep the boundaries that make you feel loved and safe. And only accept true friendships and supporting ways. 


To anyone who is growing. 


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