Roar in the Afterglow

This is a thought or a message written up as a list of some sorts, it goes hand in hand with what I wrote just before. How to build a stable relationship abroad 1. Be SECURE IN YOURSELF, wherever you are. This is the number one thing before putting any pillars in to a relationship that you want to last, near to home or far away. You need to be able to find a secure center within yourself- for when times are good and when they are hard. Whether it is for a general anxiety turmoil in your head or for surrounding reasons. Neither can support the other if as soon as you hit a wall you as a partner are breaking apart. Trust in one-self is an important start. Trust towards each-other comes (for example) from following this list while near or far. 2. Have OTHER PILLARS for an additional sense of security. Realize that you can not control your partners family life, pattern or problems. You have to trust them and give them time to deal with their own personal milestones in their own w

I know I wrote about this before under different headlines, but due to current circumstances in my life I felt it was time to bring this forward again. Become whole and complete, teach yourself to surf even when hit by waves of anxiety. For me anxiety is a part of me, but I learn to walk through it, after years of hard work I found trust in me. It does not matter where I am, where I am I am me, others do not need to transform themselves to fill the holes in me, it is my mission to become whole entirely. You are welcome to walk right beside of me. But first you need to strengthen your own sense of inner security.  Become grounded in yourself, build yourself strong enough to become what you need from me. I will support you but I can not fill all the holes within you that you see, you need to become your own Oak tree. This applies to wherever in the world you might be, close to home or far away, Inner security is key. This " becoming whole thing"  does not happen ove