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I walked down the street today, not feeling my exactly prettiest.. my make-up was put on in a hurry and my hair had tangled up once again (it tends to do that a lot). As I thought about my clumsy appearance I remembered one of the best things my dad has ever taught me;
 -The most beautiful make-up you could have is your smile.

And I count to that a sense of inner happiness. To appreciate who you are, inside and out.

My parents have taught me a lot, I don't know If they know it. But I look up to them. I may not always have, and in my teenage years I definitely didn't. But the years have opened up my eyes.


My parents have taught me that friends matter, as I was younger we had all kinds of parties and get-togethers with our family friends.The parents and all their kids.We even travelled up north during the winter to ski, daytime hike, meet reeindeers, ride reeindeers ( yes we even got our drivers license :D ) and play boardgames like pictunary and make pancakes in the evening. 

You can maybe imagine what a big table with 15 kids ( and at one point of our lives even babies and toddlers) around it looks like and the parents sitting next to us singing songs like we now tend to do at student dinner-parties.

And how about a car with 5 kids under the age of four and 4 parents driving to see a teneriffe volcano.

And no we were not in a cult.. :D Its just the way we had it.A ll my parents childhood and university friends with there wives or husbands and their kids. Our parents still have traditions like this. And even tough the slowed down the phase and amount of these events. I hope they never stop completely.

My dad and his guy friends even have a  yearly tradition to go out sailing for one week, the wives get to stay at home. This They call The Boys-seglats. I think Iv been familiar to the concept ever since I've could remember.

But theres more to it then that.

You should also be there for your friends, especially when they need you. My mom being there for our family friend battling with cancer and going through a divorce, my dad visiting two of his friends at the hospital as much as he ever could, they both pasted away somewhat recently..

There also there for each other, And this is one of the things I Value the most. My mom is a tough one but sometimes she gets emotional ( so I know who I get that from:) and thank you, its a gift <3 ), my dad doesn't always know what to say, but he`s there, he`s always there. And that's the thing that matters.


My moms a fighter who never gives up, ( even tough she might say something else). But actions speak louder than words. From her I`ve leaned to push it, that even a girl who's never spent that much time at he sea can learn to sail in a storm. That you can survive being a stay at home mother of two, out on an archipelago island all year around, with electricity going off in a storm and with no more people around than you can count on your 10 fingers.

I've leaned that you can get yourself a career, work hard, but also allow yourself to let go, to take a break. And right now shes decided to take a big one, a year long one, to do all the things she wished she had more time for.

My dad always remembers the good in life, what to be thankful for, to think positive, the wise things his friends, parents or grandparents said, (or we said :D). I hope he knows how much he`s taught me over the past year.

I haven't always been a the best termes with my dad, we both tend to be very stubborn, and about a year and a half ago we went months without talking. But we`v learnt to see past that, and start talking. And today I speak with him almost daily, sometimes for over 30 minutes. He even calls me, just because.

I know that I can tell him anything, and even tough I don't, I'm still thankful for that I know that I can.


I love you Mom and Dad <3






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