Get off the ladder and walk on ground for a while (on early dating)

Dating, with expectations, laughter, over thinking, doubt...worry...

..Starting something new with someone can be exciting yet terrifying. Throwing yourself in there (again) hoping that THIS is the time it will be different, hoping and longing for (yet fearing) those good bits, you know- replies to that text you sent a few days ago, and with a smiley face (our millennial standards..) or that they come to your door with a bucket of flowers (far less likely and sort of frightening), can be both butterflies and a stomach twister.... And when received a cherry on our cake for that week, a step or leap up the ladder, or a fear of how high we now have been taken.. or may I say how far the drop down is. The higher you get lifted the more painful the fall (or actually, if high enough, we might just become a splat, and so there was nothing left at all). Its ironic how scared I get when good things happen. 

Who wants to be taken up when we just might end up like that pancake we made for breakfast ?

And when we don't receive the cherry (or the cherry on top of the regular sundae we already received), who wants to walk around in a circle- caught by worrying thoughts about what that means, and what the next stage on the ladder will be.. are we being pushed downwards, whats at the bottom ?

Where is this going ? Why isn't he or she doing enough ? 

Important here to remember is that we are all human (no knights on white horses or super girls made of sugar ), balance or gestures that make sense aren't always received. Dating can be lovely- but between two human beings- with their own boats to take care of (timetables, other stuff) and individual style to paddle, it is almost guarantied to be bumpy and confusing, even if the sought out direction would keep on being the same. 

To help yourself get free from being caught in a worrying limbo, get off the ladder,

walk barefooted, on the ground. And most importantly, don't let the fear or expectations of what might happen in the next step overrule the current- or the feeling of the current overrule and decide for anything else than just this, the current.

Live each chapter as a piece of its own for a while, appreciate it for what it is, treasure and memorise without attachment. The story hoped for will continue if meant to be. Cherish and say thank you either way. It isnt easy to focus your thoughts this way, for me emotional storylines with a view of the book's chapters ahead are easily created.

But by getting off the imagined ladder, we can let go of the worry, and calmness (possibly most likely) can take its place. 

Every moment is a new page,

Dont over think it,

Just listen to what it has to say for today.  

Light heartedly,

that will be my goal and sought out way (still endless tornados tackled each day).