In the last post I`ve written a lot about family, me thinking about my own future family, my kids and their safety and well being and so on. Well that mixed with I miss you but please don't show up yet, might have gotten a bit confusing.. (?) At least I started to be a bit confused on what I was really trying to say, and not get to much lost of track, or this path that I'm trying to follow.
And No, I don't want engagement, marriage, kids or even a relationship yet, but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't keep my eyes open. Because you never know..
Well, anyway. Here`s my view about that (or my idea of a healthy approach when looking for that future someone);
Friends first, always *. That way you can get to know someone as they are, slowly. Take time to do that. As I said so many times before, at least I feel that I need that time. Both to just be and grow to be whole, but also to get time to know people around me.
I don't think you should search for a relationship as a solution to not wanting to be alone. I'm not looking for a relationship I'm looking for a person. And to know that you found that person, that takes time. After that it might, slowly turn in to something more.
Don't be in a relationship with someone because you feel that you need to, do it because you realised that you truly want to. That is right both to that person and yourself. Be honest and truthful in your intentions. Don't be in a relationship with someone just to see where this is going.
And for myself, I'm looking for that one person, so when you know that we are getting more serious, I'm really being serious, I don't want to play around.
So what kind of person am I looking for ?
I could go on and on about the world travelling, backpacking, hiking, sporty, hipsterish guy who has his feet on the ground but is open to adventures change, has an education, likes to cook, open to languages and is good with kids... Haha :D But the honest mature truth is this, If he does or doesn't fit " those qualities", it doesn't matter, What matters is; Someone who has is together (and to face your weakness is a part of that too), someone with empathy, kindness and some sort of understanding about how to prepare for and build a good healthy and safe future.
As most of us, I'm looking for that person I want to wake up next to every morning, someone who will catch me if I fall and someone who lets me help them too,
someone to share a future life with.
(*even if possibly confusing things might have already happened)
Goodnight <3
And No, I don't want engagement, marriage, kids or even a relationship yet, but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't keep my eyes open. Because you never know..
Well, anyway. Here`s my view about that (or my idea of a healthy approach when looking for that future someone);
Friends first, always *. That way you can get to know someone as they are, slowly. Take time to do that. As I said so many times before, at least I feel that I need that time. Both to just be and grow to be whole, but also to get time to know people around me.
I don't think you should search for a relationship as a solution to not wanting to be alone. I'm not looking for a relationship I'm looking for a person. And to know that you found that person, that takes time. After that it might, slowly turn in to something more.
Don't be in a relationship with someone because you feel that you need to, do it because you realised that you truly want to. That is right both to that person and yourself. Be honest and truthful in your intentions. Don't be in a relationship with someone just to see where this is going.
And for myself, I'm looking for that one person, so when you know that we are getting more serious, I'm really being serious, I don't want to play around.
So what kind of person am I looking for ?
I could go on and on about the world travelling, backpacking, hiking, sporty, hipsterish guy who has his feet on the ground but is open to adventures change, has an education, likes to cook, open to languages and is good with kids... Haha :D But the honest mature truth is this, If he does or doesn't fit " those qualities", it doesn't matter, What matters is; Someone who has is together (and to face your weakness is a part of that too), someone with empathy, kindness and some sort of understanding about how to prepare for and build a good healthy and safe future.
As most of us, I'm looking for that person I want to wake up next to every morning, someone who will catch me if I fall and someone who lets me help them too,
someone to share a future life with.
(*even if possibly confusing things might have already happened)
Goodnight <3
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